The academic success of our children is not only based on good grades. Their well-being in school, their adaptation to community life, their relationship with their teachers are all factors that can favor or disfavor their self-esteem, motivation and, therefore their school results.
How to find the right balance between involvement and pressure? Between results and fulfillment?
Here I will show you the key elements to help you putting more psychology in the pedagogy of your child.
According to Marcel Rufo, a notorious child psychiatrist, 44% of psychiatrist consultations for children are to address school-related issues. The child psychiatrists look at trauma caused by the environment of the child, by his parents or family, or by his school entourage. They also look at the narcissism some kids may have developed. Most often these are not the right things to look at.
Most parents are involved in a huge turmoil when their children cannot learn at school, that despite all their efforts they are unable to help their children to learn.
This phenomenon is a nationwide problem. Studies show that 15% of pupils in the secondary school are still struggling to read. So how would you expect from these neglected children to master languages, or maths or any other subject?
Part of the issue today is due to the heavy program schools have to follow, while they are not given the autonomy they would need, for instance, to operate a more adapted chronology in the teaching of subjects along with other activities. For example, studies have shown that kids are more focused on Thursday morning! In which case, instead of giving tests or exams to pupils on a Monday or Friday, these should be given a Thursday!
The school of the future, is a school where lessons take place in the morning, while the afternoons are dedicated to cultural and social activities, to a sport, to activities getting pupils to interact with each other and with nature, there are plenty of outdoor activities that kids will enjoy doing and learn from.
Parents have their role to play here too. They should be involved in what happens at these schools.
They should partner up with the school to develop activities outside of the classroom frame.
- Take languages for example, there are plenty of parents from a foreign origin that speak different languages, they could help organize language workshops for pupils that are interested and teach then what they can.
- Parents that have advanced knowledge in DIY can organize workshops and teach pupils some technics and how to use tools.
- A gardener father or mother can teach pupils few tricks about botany and how to take care of plants and flowers.
When parents start to be involved in the school activities, and when they will share some knowledge from their domain of expertise and teach something new to the other pupils and even to the teachers, then they will make their own children feel proud of their parents regardless of their economic, social or cultural background. Seeing their parents involved in such way will open a new perspective of school to these children.